by Poma » 12 Feb 2022, 22:43
When talking about masochism (or humiliation/degradation) as a kink/fantasy/etc. it's all about experiencing it in a safe and consensual environment. Speaking from personal experience, I actually find it freeing and even empowering to experience the sensations of pain, or the feeling of being humiliated, in an environment that doesn't have any of the real negative consequences that would normally be associated with those acts.
I don't think of it as reinforcing a negative trait/desire/worldview, it's more taking control by giving up control and playing within a space that
removes the negative aspects, if that makes sense. When you're talking power play, if you're secretly enjoying whatever punishment your partner's dishing out (again, keeping it consensual of course), then who's really in control?
And I'd echo what Rothaon said: liking humiliation doesn't make you less of a person! I'd encourage anyone into humiliation/degradation to even take some pride in it! Personally I find that I feel good by making
other people feel good, and there's a lot of great kinks that let me explore that. Humiliation's a great way to feel like I'm there for someone else's enjoyment, so then
I'm feeling great. Win-win situation.
And that all doesn't even get into the physical sensation aspects of masochism. In the right context, being spanked can feel pleasurable, and be as much a reward as a punishment
When talking about masochism (or humiliation/degradation) as a kink/fantasy/etc. it's all about experiencing it in a safe and consensual environment. Speaking from personal experience, I actually find it freeing and even empowering to experience the sensations of pain, or the feeling of being humiliated, in an environment that doesn't have any of the real negative consequences that would normally be associated with those acts.
I don't think of it as reinforcing a negative trait/desire/worldview, it's more taking control by giving up control and playing within a space that [i]removes[/i] the negative aspects, if that makes sense. When you're talking power play, if you're secretly enjoying whatever punishment your partner's dishing out (again, keeping it consensual of course), then who's really in control?
And I'd echo what Rothaon said: liking humiliation doesn't make you less of a person! I'd encourage anyone into humiliation/degradation to even take some pride in it! Personally I find that I feel good by making [i]other[/i] people feel good, and there's a lot of great kinks that let me explore that. Humiliation's a great way to feel like I'm there for someone else's enjoyment, so then [i]I'm[/i] feeling great. Win-win situation.
And that all doesn't even get into the physical sensation aspects of masochism. In the right context, being spanked can feel pleasurable, and be as much a reward as a punishment :Whip: